To me sex is a special bonding activity and to do it 1 or 2 times a month (the norm) sucks. I need it emotionally and physicall more than that. Sometimes I even get internal shakes, like withdraw symptoms if I think about sex but I go too long without really physically and emotionally conecting.
Discovery Health channel has some programs on that explore the biological, social, and many more aspects about what we call having a sex life. They even have about 3 oposing theories for female mensteral cycles that I never heard before. Then there are the psychology, cultural, family norms, for people and animals, and even sea horses and reproduction. Very interesting over all.
I kind of agree with you there are several things missing from my W's life and spending money is one crutch she uses to fill some of her unmet needs. But W's family had more income than my family while growing up. W never had the responsabilities I did.
------ just try it without talking about it ----- Sometimes I do that and it works. Sometimes I try to let her know II DO consider her feelings and wishes and try to get her to open up so I can make some changes. Trying to avoid being labeled "He never listens" type of thing.
---------- I bet if she agreed to a more regular SL she wouldn't spend so much money. Bit of a vicious circle, really. -------- If W really wanted that, I agree the spending might go down on its own. However, right now if a "regular sex life, 1 or 2 X a week were to be instituted by me, the spending would go up. W might think she is entitled to be rewarded for giving me what she thinks I want, just the sex part. Where I want the emotional connection, the bonding, and the good feelings before, during, and after sex. The bonding, the trusting, the making someone happy, and all of the other warm and fuzzies a close sex life brings. Difficult to do when one spouse brings up sex is for making babies, which I don't buy, it's more than reproducing.
-------- but men seem to want quick solutions to things -------- I suspect men have been taught there are timelines to many things. Sports, work, recreational activities.
I worked for many years in a shop that had a "flat rate" pay scale. We were paid 1 hour to repair the brakes on an axle, .3/10 (18 minuets) to change a belt that turned the waterpump, altenator/dynamo?, or air conditioning compressor on a car engine, or what ever the time-motion study said it should take.
If you did it faster, you could be paid for 10 hours of work in an 8 hour day. If it took you longer, you might get paid for 6 hours but you worked 8 hours. Even sporting events have a time or point based process to determine if you measure up to some widely held standard.
I am not saying this is right or wrong, just pointing out some of the things I can relate to and have observed in my life.
Maybe some of his strictness comes from observing others and he thinks most people should atain that standard when it comes to toys, noise or manners.
-------- Gotta fix my printer --------- I have been doing that for 10 years. Have $20,000 in parts and supplies that I resell. Back in 94 there were fewer (20) models and I could keep up with the changes. Now every year there seem to be 40 new models and fewer parts interchange so I am not stocking the slower moving supplies and parts.
10 years ago, the most popular inkjet printer ink cartridge had 40ml. of ink. Now the ink cartridges have 10ml. if ink. Customer operating expenses were around $250 for the life of the printer then. Now they are $600 to $900 for the life of the printer. Mgf's are taking advantage of customers in my opinion. I am mostly out of the inkjet market because of the corperate greed.
I still do a lot of laser printer work but see the greed over the supply market from mgf's creeping into the low end laser market. Also more lock-out chips so things can't be repaired. Now you almost have to buy assemblies.
Make, model number, and symptoms please if you want advise. I have some processes that are not in the repair manual.
