Tag wrote -------- My thoughts on a sunday night after another W explosion. ---------- What was the rant about this time? Sorry to hear it went poorly for you. Remember that your W is an independent person who chooses to be obstinante. I have more experience than I want with that type of personality.
My W accuses me of being on a porn site when I am here. Tells me at 3AM that she is never going to be controlled by a man ( after my comment about why she thinks she needs / wants a new pair of shoes EVERY month). Tells one of her dog how much she loves him and how sexy he is. Says she does not have to worry about me cheating on her=no other woman would want me. Tells me I don't like her, I don't pay attention to her. That I tell stories to relatives so they don't like her or I screw up her relaitionship with our kids.
W seemed stressed today so I rub her feet while sitting on the sofa and after 90 minuets. W decides she has to let the dogs out, she lifts her legs high, farts loudly, gets up and then laughs for a long time.
All totally childish crap. She sometimes acts like a 14 year old brat. Then is nice to me????
Tomorrow I am going to ask W what all of this stuff means, what is the cause / effect she wants me to see, or is leading to.
------ Fear destroys us all. It provides the ammunition to control people's lives. ------- Good point. I see fear as the reason I don't get things out into the open. I used to stuff things to avoid that confrontational anxiety feeling. I have learned to defuse some of the fear. I have worked on my communication skills, especially removing the emotional part that seemed to derail ant R talks. I am better at HOM and setting boundaries on what is acceptable to me.
I am feeling like the shoe salesman in some bad movies. The lady likes the shoes and they fit. The shoes are a size 9. The lady insists she wears a size 8 and refuses to buy the shoes. Its my fault because I don't know shoe sizes.
