For once I totally agree with you. I didn't sleep with him today and I didn't sleep with him on Monday. It's not actually planned sex, it normally just happens.
But I can see I should stop until he sorts out his BS. I am seeing him again this coming Monday and on Thursday, so I shall be Miss Prim then.
I feel a trip to Anne Summers coming on!!!!
Jo.
PS: can't write in Greek on here as that would be 'all Greek to you' and besides my keyboard is English, but I can send you a few English lettered Greek words, if you want, LOL. Am not fluent as I've lived in UK for too long and parents never bothered to reinforce it, but I know my way around with it.
How do you mean, Greek is gorgeous?? The country or the women or the food? Personally I think it's all gorgeous and I'm jealous of my sisters as I'd rather be there, but what can I say? I married Mr Jones
I've been to Greece. The food, the history, the islands are all gorgeous. But most of all the women are gorgeous and if I'm correct you are a woman, Greek, and we've all learned on this site that you have a heart of gold. That my dear, presents a mountain of evidence that would lead anyone to conclude you are GORGEOUS!
Thanks Tag, I wish my H wasn't so scared of me and then he could see that as well.
I have long dark brown hair and brown eyes like all the other millions of Greek people so I am not terribly original, LOL.
I used to have a foul temper; apparently that's a Greek trait too. It has toned down a lot over the last 3 years because this sitch forced me to tone down. Probably a good thing.
Ioavva wrote:
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He said it was because he was scared I'd get depression and then not be able to handle them.
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Ioavva remind your H what you have done to solve this problem. You might say what trigger points you recognise (when or what started the depression) and mention what you can do to change things. You can say what you do to avoid those situations and how long it has been even when you felt a little down. Show him how you have grown.
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I squeezed his hand and said I know.
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Jo add some strong hugs and thank him for his concerns. Tell him how sweet he is for looking out for you and the children. Use those brown eyes and a sweet smile to soften his heart.
If I were our H I would want a little skin contact with the hug. A hand on my bare neck, your cheek on my face or chest, a hand on some bare part of my bare arm and linger for a while. Reinforce the notion that a mother's love for her children is a basic instinct that has been missing from your life for a while and you need to get it back with his help.
I hope this helps Jo. I can imagine him controlling your access to the kisd is frustrating at times.
About the home ed (home schooling in the US) of the children, say you just are not sure that would be the best thing for everyone, (You, the kids, and him) right now. That you still need to work X numbers of hours to pay the bills, go to school yourself so the future you two are thinking of having can come to pass.
I just watched a UK video documentary titled "Mum, I Am a Muslim." It gave a brief history of 3 women (18, 28, 48?) that used to be somewhat typical Christian British women several years ago. In addition to the religious changes, the women spoke of the changes in their relationships with family members and friends.
I payed close attention to the towns and buildings in the video to get an idea how other people live. Interesting program Jo.
OG Lou Last vacation/holiday 1986 but my favorite network used to be the Travel Channel.
Jo, Here is a story that you might find interesting. The poster goes by the name of UnderDog, a 1970/1980 cartoon semi-super hero that does some minor super hero type of deeds. (not down on herself).
She used to be very critical. I used to post on her thread and she said she pourposly, more passive-agressive made her H life miserable at one time because he did not pay enough attention to her.
Underdog has a lot of friends (some very intelligent and execelent intuition), writes well, has changed alot, and a H that treats her well but still is asking for a D but still wants to be her best friend, maybe acts like he still wants to live with her but doesn't want to live with her????
UndreDog and her friends post a lot so there is a lot to read.
Another poster kml is also a good read. She is a medical doctor that had a thyroid problem, was difficult to be around, and quit working. Her H had an OW and kml used some good DB work to get things back on track. kml also has a d with an eating disorder, an very intelligent son, and she gives good advice.
kml's last thread.
Again you have to go way back to see where she was, what successes and failures she has had.
Seems like I am suggesting some very long reads. Just letting you in on some post you might find helpful if you have that much time. I wish I could condense some of this stuff because i know how long it takes to read the threads.
NOPkins and Mrs Nop on Sex Starved Marriage are another set of good reads.
OG Lou 1:48AM again, bettter than 4:45AM yesterday, slept to 8:45 AM so I am too tired to think about anything but sleep right now. I think I am GMT -7 time zone.
tag wrote
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Lou, glad to see you haven't left the playing field!
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Tag, Where is the playing field? Are there any women there that want to play? What games are being played?
I am not really serious. Just joking around about the above. I am feeling better because I am doing more for myself and working on W less. I got tired of being the relationship police. I can't get her to see the light by point to it. I can only do what I think is the proper thing to do and hope she sees enough of a change for her to also want to make changes.
Hope you are having some PMA working for you.
Now I really have to get to bed. New York 4AM, Chicago 3AM, My time zone 2AM.
