Jo, Here is a story that you might find interesting. The poster goes by the name of UnderDog, a 1970/1980 cartoon semi-super hero that does some minor super hero type of deeds. (not down on herself).
She used to be very critical. I used to post on her thread and she said she pourposly, more passive-agressive made her H life miserable at one time because he did not pay enough attention to her.
Underdog has a lot of friends (some very intelligent and execelent intuition), writes well, has changed alot, and a H that treats her well but still is asking for a D but still wants to be her best friend, maybe acts like he still wants to live with her but doesn't want to live with her????
UndreDog and her friends post a lot so there is a lot to read.
Another poster kml is also a good read. She is a medical doctor that had a thyroid problem, was difficult to be around, and quit working. Her H had an OW and kml used some good DB work to get things back on track. kml also has a d with an eating disorder, an very intelligent son, and she gives good advice.
kml's last thread.
Again you have to go way back to see where she was, what successes and failures she has had.
Seems like I am suggesting some very long reads. Just letting you in on some post you might find helpful if you have that much time. I wish I could condense some of this stuff because i know how long it takes to read the threads.
NOPkins and Mrs Nop on Sex Starved Marriage are another set of good reads.
OG Lou 1:48AM again, bettter than 4:45AM yesterday, slept to 8:45 AM so I am too tired to think about anything but sleep right now. I think I am GMT -7 time zone.
