Ioavva wrote:
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He said it was because he was scared I'd get depression and then not be able to handle them.
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Ioavva remind your H what you have done to solve this problem. You might say what trigger points you recognise (when or what started the depression) and mention what you can do to change things. You can say what you do to avoid those situations and how long it has been even when you felt a little down. Show him how you have grown.
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I squeezed his hand and said I know.
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Jo add some strong hugs and thank him for his concerns. Tell him how sweet he is for looking out for you and the children. Use those brown eyes and a sweet smile to soften his heart.
If I were our H I would want a little skin contact with the hug. A hand on my bare neck, your cheek on my face or chest, a hand on some bare part of my bare arm and linger for a while. Reinforce the notion that a mother's love for her children is a basic instinct that has been missing from your life for a while and you need to get it back with his help.
I hope this helps Jo. I can imagine him controlling your access to the kisd is frustrating at times.
About the home ed (home schooling in the US) of the children, say you just are not sure that would be the best thing for everyone, (You, the kids, and him) right now. That you still need to work X numbers of hours to pay the bills, go to school yourself so the future you two are thinking of having can come to pass.
