Jo, I'm sitting here in laughter. You may be Greek but you don't write like any Greek I know and besides Greeks were great sailors too. Remember Troy? It's the methaphor I'm kidding you about. Throwing someone a boat anchor is like sealing their doom. I left your post early when w returned from the store and I went to help unload the car. Here's my take on your situation, There are miles to go in your relationship. It's not about you. It's about your H. He's holding baggage from the former Jo, like my W is with me. Time heals all wounds and actions speak louder than words. Now that the metaphors are out of the way I think of one of the books my wife read about abusive relationships. The villian (me) was a rager prone to temper tantrums. Guilty as charged. It was all about control. Another way to control was sex. Now I'm not sure this entered my mind but obviously its in my W's mind. you may be on treacherous ground where he's holding the past as a "control" device and still enjoying sex. Call me crazy and without a doupt your insight trumps mine but consider a longer time frame, extra pleasantness, and reel inthe sex. See if he responds favorably? Namely does he get over the "past" BS? Hope this helps? Back to the garage.
