I am sorry you are going through this. I still think your W should go on detox/vitamin therapy. Sounds like she needs it and that might pick up your SL.
I would not have hysterectomy/radiation in the same circumstances as I feel that my womb is part of what makes me a woman. I would not even get sterilized. It is up to H if he choses to, but I would not.
If I had cancer I would treat with detox, vitamins, counselling, visualisation therapy etc. Louise Hay, the author of 'You can heal your life' successfully cured herself of vaginal cancer by visualisation, when the doctors had given her up for dead, and I learnt on my immunology course that there is a dr called Dr Simonton who treats cancer with the same techniques and she has acheieved success rates double the rate of radiation treatments.
My own father died after chemo, and so did my uncle. In fact, there's no one I know in my family that have ever survived after it, so I am quite skeptical over what long-term benefits these agressive treatments have.
I also think it's quality of life that counts, not quantity, and I would rather live less and have fun and still enjoy a good sex life and social life etc than live for ages with no energy and no enjoyment of the things I used to do.
But that's just my opinion and not in any way critical of your W's decisions. I'm just not entirely surprised she feels this way about sex given the massive trauma her body has been through.
She maybe has a self-image problem? (just a thought) - if I had had a hysterectomy, I would feel less sexy, somehow. It's like saying if someone walks with a limp, lets cut their legs off because they can't do it properly.
Again, this is in no way judgemental, just my thoughts on the subject and discussion and I totally respect anyone's wishes to have such procedures.
