----------- about sex 3 times a night, I think it gets better as you get older ----------- For me I can last longes, go slower, and pay attention to W reactions to what I am doing. Not that it really does any good for the last 15 years.
--------- I think the difference is, men tend to concentrate more on the physical sensation and women on the emotion connected with it. --------- I think my W lost the ability to be emotionally connected with me in bed, and to a degree people in general. She is emotionally connected to her pets though.
--------- W sees it as a purely physical act which might explain why she sees it as a male need. ----------- You are mostly correct for her current age.
When we first got M, she had lots of emotional and sexual feelings / connections.
Then W wanted babies and the feelings were sexual and maternial. We were reading things about how to get pregnant, positions, frequency, timing. Talk about good sex. W wanted deep and hard. (not rough)
Things mostly good untill W and I decided no more babies. Some bumps but we worked things out.
Then W's Tubal Ligation, then Hysterectomy, then my back surgery, then W's breast lump surgery-radiation-anti cancer hormone-killing drugs for 5 yeasrs. So that brings us up to today. W said she wishes the sex stuff would go away.
--------- I can't imagine that I will get to 50 years old and suddenly not be bothered. -------- I hope you do not have to go through what I posted above.
----------- As for your W's view that sex is a male need, I don't think that is true. --------- Sometimes I think my W just likes to complain. I think she likes it but only a couple times a year.m
It's 2:37 AM and I am posting instead of laying in bed thinking I wish we could ML. I can only lay next to W for a certain amount of time being very interested. I have to get up and do something untill I am so tired nothing matters. W wants me in bed with her to sleep, not much cuddeling and very little kissing or sex.
--------- I think it's a human need to share and express love. ---------- I agree
--------- I view it as the ultimate means of expressing love, so if my H didn't, I would think he didn't love me. --------- I see it that way too.
