Thanks for your compliments. I'll let you know what happens tomorrow which is when I'm next seeing H!
I don't mind if people hijack my thread, I like all the people on here, in fact, the more the merrier!
I think I might have to make a new thread when it gets to page 10 though. If anyone knows how to save the old thread, let me know, because people seem to get hope from my posts so it would be a shame if it just deleted.
Sorry about the celibacy thing - honestly, you have great experiences to look forward to!
I just opened the post this morning and I got my qualification certificate, I got an A grade, I got a flippin' A grade!!!! (in neuro-psychological immunology) -I've never got an A grade in my life!!
Whoooo Hoooo!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Just wait till I show H
I only scored 80% in my anatomy and physiology papers so I didn't think I'd get an A grade
journaling, Just as I laid DB books around the house I see W is reading. Here I am reading books on saving a marriage and my W is reading books on how to proceed with divorce. Two I see here are “Spiritual Divorce” by Debbie Ford (quote: “A Spiritual divorce is one in which we use divorce to improve our lives.”) and Verbal Abuse by Patricia Evans. W has highlighted all my past sins. How do I DB when W is D?
IGNORE her D books. Just pretend she isn't reading them. She might feel similarly pressured by you leaving DB books round the house.
So she's highlighted your faults - say nothing of it, but show her through your kind and non-judgemental actions that you have remedied those faults.
You have only just met up with her again and as yet she hasn't given you any assurances on the R so these things are bound to come up. DON'T get upset, just keep going.
Remember, actions speak louder than words,
I'm off for a nap as I've been tending to a sick kid for 2 days and I'm knackered.
Ioavva wrote --------- so what if he shoots the gun at home before, he can still use it again, right? ---------- Ioavva, yes, you are right. MB before seeing someone you are desperat to connect with helps to remove some of the desperation. Remember guys have about 24 times more testosterone than most gals. So with all of those hormones, some guys sometimes seems to have a one track mind. Relieving some of the sexual energy before meeting with someone you want so much just want to rip off their clothes and go at it like sex starved monkeys or babbits, MBing befor hand helps a guy to think more clearly for at least a little while.
---------- we ML 3 times in one night! ----------- Good to see some pashion in your life. Normal when I was 20 something. One time we did so often my testicles ached.
----------- The women would probably be flattered if they knew. ------------ Some would, I agree. Some would think I just wanted to use them sexually. Difficult to tell before hand and not appropriate to talk about it with out offending many people.
When I tell my W I get tingly when I hug her she sees it as I want something from her that she has little interest in. Just another one of those males using females to get the male's sex needs met or males being selfish.
What my W tells me she would rather have is someone interested in going shopping for shoes (30+ pair already) or purses. W also loves to have her back or feet rubbed. When I say I am getting the tingles or she feels sexy, she leaves. My W tells me "I wish you would forget about the sexy stuff." I reply that if I did forget about the sexy stuff she would be in a state where she would not like that either and would be begging me to go back to the way I was. I said " be careful what you wish for, you mighr get it some day and not be happy once you get it."
Jo, I know many women would be flattered but I think some women reach a point where once something that was very good becomes something to be avoided.
It's like a friend that gave mouth to mouth to revive someone. The guy that was passed out regurgitated his cantaloupe. The friend has a difficult time seeing or smelling cantaloupe.
---------- The women would probably be flattered if they knew. ----------- Thanks for reminding me. I have been on the negative end of this too long and lost sight that some women do feel good things if complimented this way.
Tag Re; past dog. I was not trying to put you down for what you did. The past is gone. I just wanted to point out that when you thought you were showing your W she was more important than the dog, she could see it differently and use it against you. I get a similar reaction from my W when a customer calls or when I work on the computer. W indicates I think more highly of my customers and computer interests than her.
BTW it was occassionaly that way when the kids were little. I had to tell wife that I was going to fly kites with the kids for an hour and then I was going to play or do things with her for a couple of hours just so she did not feel left out.
Ioavva Re: --------- I got a flippin' A grade!!!! (in neuro-psychological immunology) --------- Boy. That is great, and in such a difficult subject, double great!
I was in the 8 grade before I got the first "A" I can remember. I did not like school for social reasons. Kids can say the meanest things. School seemed like so much of a pecking ordet thing. Almost everyone putting someond down so they could be a little higher, only one winner.
In college I realised everyone could be a winner, depending on "YOUR" effort, and it did not matter who was on top. As a mater of fact, anyone could be at the top if they had the motivation and put forth the effort. After I graduated from college (1990) I discovered grades even counted less. Some of the B and C students became the most successful workers in the community.
Congratulations Jo. I bet there is more in your soul than you ever thought there was 10 years ago. I made a comment to one of my professors indicating that somehow I was dumb when it came to certain subjects. She pointed out that what most people label as dumb is actually a lack of exposure, knowledge, and pracricing of a certain subject. She had been through this with many other older students. She had a little skit to prove her point.
She asked me some Phd. type of question she knew I would not know the answer to, explained the terms, how they related the question, gave a practical example, asked me to explain what I heard her say, what the concept meant to me, and finally said that I had a Phd's understanding of the subject. She said if I want to earn my Phd. (her way to motivate students) all I had to do is learn thousands of little bits of infrmation just like she just presented, stick to it until I made it to my next little goal like passing the next test, and keep going from there to whatever my ultimate goal might be.
