You have to be patient or you will totally mess up the DB'ing, and what would you rather have - one night of hasty sex followed by upset W and very upset YOU, and then an angry D, or do you want to ML with this woman every night for the rest of your life? Choice is yours.
By the time ML with H, he missed me so badly he just said it directly, no messing about 'I want your sex now.' I tell you, I nearly dropped the cup of coffee I was drinking in my lap. He didn't get it then, but I did kiss him. I made him wait another couple of weeks after that and then it just happened spontaneously and both of us were willing, so there was no backlash.
Plus, there are other advantages of waiting:
1. If it's her first move then you know she really wants you.
2. If you're on a more secure footing, your M is more likely to succeed than if you introduce sex now.
3. Lack of sex means when you do, it's completely off the map in terms of pleasure. Reunited partners are usually more sexually direct with each other. Eg, my H says 'do this to me' and 'do that to me' and 'I love it when you do that' etc, which he didn't so much in the M.
I am also extremely descriptive in what I want from him and you know what? It makes it tons more erotic.
Don't give in now or you'll slip back into old patterns! Follow your W's ques, you will know. She'll reach to kiss you more, brushing her hand on yours when she walks passed, lingering eye-contact etc.
Let her do the chase, if it gets that far atm.
If you want your W, you'll think of your long term goal.
