Good to hear TAGIII. I like the "Stone Soup" idea. Glad something is working for you. I can see Ioavva's suggestion to take it slow and be prepared for backtracking as excelent advice.
Ioavva & TAGIII, In my case shutting down and being very distant with my W did some good. I do not like it when I act that way, but when W sees me almost completly detach then she does something to keep the R going.
Ioavva, eventhough I said I need a break from all of my crappy stuff with my W and I don't have much time for the BB, I really get a mental boost from reading what you post.
I wish we were neighbors and you could sit me and my W down and hit us up beside the head with one of those 2X4's spoken about on the bb to see how we are affecting each other and what we are doing correct or wrong. Since that is not likely to happen, I will be reading your posts.
I just wish I could help you as much as you have helped others here on the BB. I can see how thankfull you are for finding yout life coach. Again, thanks for your post here, your insight, and here's wishing you that your good advice rains down on you and your family.
