Jo, Here's what I have done: 1."son 30 (2Jul73) you could write to him or start sending him weekly emails" We talk weekly. 2."D 31, has she got any kids yet" 2 and they are my best friends. They know grandpa will read to them, take them to the movies, and McDonlads. 3."D 15, your R with her is not very good" True, she too thinks I'm faking it. This visit I'll see all of her ballet performances. I'll pick her up from school and offer to take her to her favorite burger joint In-N-Out. I plan to build her a Nutcracker Ballet display case for her Clara performance. I might note that although W dotes over her for ballet D15 was first introduced to ballet by me when I'd take just her and I at age two and up to see the Nutcracker in Michigan. I've been whinning a lot recently because I see this marriage slipping away. Our friends and counselor see no reason for it other than resentments from 20+ years ago. I'm sorry but I'd rather be sad than mad. Question - should I have a talk to D15 about how I love ehr or will that just come across as fake? Maybe I should just focus on actions?
