Ioavva, I just got off the phone with my lawyer. I stressed although we are proceeding, my first goal is to save this marriage and I love my wife. I feel she is in pain and want all of this to proceed in a civil manner: 1."You could try doing some 180's on your children " in the works 2. "NEVER say anything frustrated or negative about her in front of them" not in front of D15, 31. But I confess I do with my son. 3. "DON'T make it obvious you pray for her " I pray but I don't pray as if she is at fault 4. "'IF YOU GIVE HER WHAT SHE NEEDS, SHE'LL GIVE YOU WHAT YOU NEED" I've told my lawyer to be fair and I'm leaving it to him to guide me. I already gave her the convertable I gave her on mother's day 1980. She knew how much I cared for it and offered it to her. 5. "Look gorgeous and well groomed every time she sees you" I will arrive in a suit. 6. "Scheldule some more time with your kids" easy for D31, harder for S30 (in San Antonio) really rough for D15 who's with her mom. I pray for time to heal. I offer time and if she turns me down I accept it. Remeber, my good and wise friend, my kids have told W I've changed. She calls it a game.
