1. Do not answer the phone every time it rings, therefore on occassions when he calls you, you aren't always available to him.
2. Put a message on your answer phone that sounds happy and upbeat.
3. Change your clothes/hair. Look gorgeous every time he sees you but DON'T touch him. (You are a desirable sexy female that he can't have).
4. Don't automatically tell him stuff you've been up - wait for him to ask you.
5. Go out with friends more/ get hobbies etc so when he DOES ask you, you have new stuff to tell him.
6. Change stuff in the house, just little things, like buying new coffee mugs or putting new paintings on the wall. Change the furniture layout, i.e, move the sofa to other end of room. These little things keep him on his toes.
7. Put a list of important phone numbers by your phone or somewhere he can see it, and make sure you DON'T include his. (This worked like a classic on my H).
8. When you do see him/talk on the phone make sure you sound interested in what he says and cheerful, but be the first one to end the conversation.
9. If he compliments you on your clothes/smile etc then smile even more and say 'Yes I know I have a great smile' (shows him self-confidence). When my H says I'm wonderful i say 'I know I am, but I'm glad you noticed'.
10. DON'T talk about the R or the OW or anything heavy. If he says something about 'needing space' and 'it being about him' just smile and say okay.
11. Act like you aren't bothered about the D. Be upbeat with him, but mechanical about anything to do with D. Even if it kills, tell yourself you accept the process and just go through it as if you are an atty and it's your job. He may then wonder why you aren't bothered, or do what my H did and bounce back right before D goes through. Remember if it does happen, the D is not your R, it is a piece of paper.
Just ignore your H's comments about him 'doing the right thing' - he's trying to get an emotional response from you. If you act like you are calm and cool about it, he will be wondering why you don't need him.
Obviously with no kids, your opportunities to meet him are less but if you do the stuff I listed (all of which I have done with my H and which worked for me) then you might have a good chance.
