Well he seemed as if he was suffering a bit and I've already been at the phase he's at now so I figured I could use my experience to help.
All I had at the time was people telling me to 'move on' etc which is the most patronizing rubbish and not remotely constructive when you're in that situation.
Tag and other people on here had meaningful R's with their H/W's and I'm not about to minimize that by telling them to get over it. I wanted the people that read these BB's to know that there are active things you can do to help yourself and your R with your x partner.
I also thought by posting my story and my progress I could show that even the most hopeless case such as mine (my atty said it was the most vicious D she had known in her 25 yrs as an atty), there IS hope, and my R with my H is proof of that, even if I'm not out of the woods yet.
