I think you shouldn't have sent that email. You want to show her that you CAN live without her and act as if you're happy to do so.
If you tell her your flight times etc then there is no mysteriousess about your life. You have to get her wondering what you're up to and wondering why you DON'T need her (of course you do, but you mustn't let her know that).
There was no response because you've probably freaked her out; she's thinking 'omg, he's acting like I'm his W' and she's scared of that atm.
Rule number 1: let her come to you and ASK for your assistance or offer to help you. If she doesn't to start with, don't get discouraged, just keep plodding along.
If you are going to instigate contact, then at this early stage I would suggest just discussing something benign about your children.
Make her feel that you are independent of her and fine ad she will feel as if she's missing out on your life. Wait for her to call you etc. When she does, act nice and pleasant and sound interested in what she says, but be the first one to end the call.
For instance, my H is on my msn messenger and I usually wait for him to IM me. On the ocassions when I message him first, I will usually not reply to him straight away, then he types
'What are u upto?' - so I've got his attention.
It's reverse psychology - people always want what they can't have.
As for your questioning your W, don't do it. It's a death sentance because it's pressure from her point of view. If there comes a point where she feels comfortable enough to hold you, let it be her choice, not because you've mentioned it.
NEVER MAKE THE FIRST MOVE SEXUALLY. Let her come to you. If she does it first she cannot blame you, she cannot say it was you pressuring her. It will then be her responsibility.
Even now, I don't make first moves on my H sexually, I let him come to me. Sometimes I help him along a bit by wearing nice clothes. You should do that, just look gorgeous and stylish and confident whenever she sees you and then the issue of whether or not you will have a physical R will not come up, because it will just happen naturally.
As for her saying she forgives you, I'm guessing she may have meant she doesn't bear any grudges. The D thing will hae come up because she panicked and backtracked. Questioning never helps in this situation. I remember dozens of times my H backtracked, usually because of too much pressure from me.
But don't worry, just chill out, look great, act like Mr Nice Guy whenever she sees you, and go out with friends etc so you start building a life, one that she wants to be part of. Don't get upset if she pushes the D through, she sounds confused and as I said, a D is not the R.
Your R can still survive if you play this right. My H is still my H and a tons better lover in spite of D.
