You CAN do it, Johndad, that's the whole point. Anyone can do anything they want if they want it badly enough.
Be prepared for it to take ages, but you'll get there. The way I look at it is, what's 3 years fixing a M, when I promised him my life? When I succeed and move in with him (and I will, you always have to say that to yourself: I WILL SUCCEED!) then I will have another delightful 50 or 60 years of my life with him, which is well worth these past few years when things have been painful - that to me is not even a sacrifice, it is an honour.
And if you think of the things this situation has taught you, for instance you now know DB'ing, so you can go into your R's with people having much more chance of fulfilling R's - not just sexual ones, but platonic as well with friends.
So whenever you get really down, just think that.
Jo.
PS: thanks for your kind comments re my development. I was in such a state when he left, I wouldn't even eat. So if I can do it and rise up from that, so can you and Tag and everyone on here!!
