Jo,

Now, that was court-ordered abuse...wow.

One thing I will say is that dating, in my mind, is not the solutions to anything. If anything being able not to date is a positive qwuality. I have been divorced for almost 4 years, have dated, but find myself taking long periods of time off and am actually happier in those times.

Make sure (as best as you can) that the difference is real. Taking things as they come seems to be the way to go.

IMP