You are my husband. When you call ANOTHER WOMAN gorgeous, sexy, doll, etc...and NOT ME FOR YEARS.
When tell her how you'll get down on all 4's for her.
When I have had to endure so much pain from before. You never cried, you never held me and rocked me, you never healed me pain.
I just had to be tough and forgive and get it over with quick because you were embarrassed and didn't want to be reminded.
Oh, please. I don't want to hear those things from you. I am not dead!!!!! I never have been!!!!
You live in your own private world. You don't communicate your needs. You don't communicate your feelings! I have no idea. But you spend time on that stupid computer talking to women and not me.
You know, I have way too much respect for myself to be treated like this.
I cannot remember the last time you told ME THAT YOU LOVED ME. WORLD...I HAVE TOLD HIM. One of the last times I told you was the last few days and you just say...under your breath "you too". Then you tell this girl that you love her.
If you do Barney...go. Her divorce is almost final. You talked about how great her butt looked. I don't care about $$$$$$.....I don't care about position.....do you really love me?
Barney, I have no idea if you are actually having an affair or not. What you describe sounds like a flirtatious friendship with the potential to turn into something else and destroy your life.
Why would you risk this?
It seems to me that you have two choices here:
1. Take the energy that you are currently directing towards this friendship+ and give it ALL to your marriage.
2. Continue to divert your attention elsewhere while berating your wife for not being there for you.
I am asking that you please carefully consider this post. It isn't important because I am speaking, rather there are important things that you must hear. I am not one-upping you, I don't particularly like what I feel I must say to you.
You and your wife are the only ones here that will fully understand what I am saying.
There is no need at all to reply to my post.
You have some serious issues that must be dealt with. They are eating at you and preventing you from doing work that you need to be doing.
These issues must be made known to the people that care about you and your wife - all of them.
ALL of the issues, including the secret ones must be deal with.
You must come COMPLETELY clean with your wife. That means the WHOLE truth.
You must become an 'open book' to her for the foreseeable future.
You must lean hard on the people that can help with your situation. You must listen to what they tell you.
I urge you, please bend the knee.
I hope that God will richly bless you and your wife.
-NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
