I would make positive remarks when you do get what you want from him and reward him in some way when he gives you what you want, for now....reward him meaning doing something he likes, giving him a foot rub, whatever he likes.. However, when things get even better between the two of you and it doesn't sound like that's quite yet...then you can out right ask for what you want...
For now, however, I would stick to doing nice things for him after he's done something you like or need...and maybe letting him know that's why...
For example, maybe he likes homemade cakes...
Tonight, he snuggles you before leaving...you enjoy that.
Tomorrow, you bake him a cake and give it to him...tell him you really enjoyed yourself last night with him and you wanted to thank him for the evening. Leave it at that for a while..don't put too much pressure on him.
It works..but it sure takes time and yes, lots of energy and effort.
At some points, I thought, enough pampering this big Pr$$$! He has not been nice to me and he doesn't even admit his faults or say sorry!!! But, I kept on db'ing him and eventually, he came around...now, he's as sweet as pie most of the time and we are really happily in love again!
