Hey alaskangirl....I have some questions for you...
First a little background on me..last March, H came home from Vegas trip to tell me he was not in love with me and didnt wnat to be married. About April I found out he was having EA with old HS classmate that is also married and lives in Vegas. Well, last Sept, they both called it off...and he has been trying to save our marriage...said he at least owed it to me..but was not so positive about it. Was so dead set on not loving me, didnt think it would work.
So, we have had some rough roads since then, but seem to be moving closer together. He is just now letting me give him hugs and kisses....well kisses on the cheeks at least. Sometimes I am able to kiss him on the lips..if i sneak it in .
I too have become a different person in the past year...I dont nag, which was the biggest thing I think. I also have a life outside of our M.
So my question is, does there come a time when you still arent getting the needs met that you want, that its ok to ask for them? Or would that be pushing to much, especially if he's not ready yet. Honestly, I have only become "comfortable" with hugging him every day just in the past couple weeks. So do I wait until he is ready to start doing things on his own, or do I ask for them? Its just so hard...I do so much for him and the needs I am needing (affection, words of affirmation) I am not getting and it is really hard sometimes... Any advice??
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