Keep your main objective in mind at all times: to get your marriage back, stronger, healthier, and happier! What do you need to do to achieve that? Perhaps it is making it easy for a WAS to return...perhaps it is acting as if you are dating when you are living together again...perhaps it is noticing the nice things your spouses do and overlooking some of the bad....
Dbing is about achieving one's goals! Remember that...
