Dear Z: My h had left home twice. Doing the first one he had OW. I always think i made a mistake accepting him so fast, that maybe was better to makes him do some real efforts and concentrate more in himself, what he do and dont, what we really wants... now, that he is again confuse, i think yes, i do that wrong, but i cant do anything...!!... learning fot that faults is all we can do, and trying to do things different... trying not to get the whole responsability of the R on me and letting him do some efforts. and about OW, yes, even nor, after almost 3 years of his R with OW, i think about that and fight with that memories or thoughts, but i can contro myself and saying to myself : if he is with me right now, is bc something!!, he thought he can find happiness out, but the fact is that he didnt find it... so, i am not the problem... the ow wasnt neither the problem... he has a problem...!!
