Here's a little post that tells some of the piecing work that I did way back when H and I were just getting back together...
I acted as if. I did not complain or bring up R talks. I treated him like a friend...I made plans to go out with friends (for while he was gone to work) in front of him so that he could see I have a life....I went to church without him...I pampered him...giving him daily foot rubs....I got out of bed in the morning when he did or shortly thereafter...instead of sleeping half the day away....I stayed sober....I took my meds....when he talked about finances I listened.....I went to my counseling appointment.
I did not complain about him watching sports.
I cooked breakfasts for the two of us and made a cake that I know he likes.
I cooked dinners that he likes and stayed out of the kitchen when he was cooking.
I did not say ILY until he was leaving for work....
What didn't I do? I didn't ask a lot of questions. I didn't snoop through his stuff. I didn't try to rehash old issues.
Hope that helps someone today!
Hugs, Akgal
PS... My threads were Mixed Emotions in newcomers, And in Piecing...Back In the Saddle Again, and Falling in Love All Over Again....
