Thanks Akgal! It is nice to be here where things are a bit more positive. I am actually doing many of the things you suggest. I had to find the place I live now myself cuz at that time, I didn't want him near me. I volunteer on Saturdays at the animal shelter and I have a couple of friends I like to go to movies with and just hang out.
I am getting better at not waiting around for him. I think what I have the hardest time with now is it seems we are not moving. There are no talks about the future.
I think I may need to get out and do something so I'm busy when he calls. I am usually pretty available, although sometimes I take my time getting to him. I think he is back to thinking I will always be there when he's ready so he doesn't even think about it.
I'm not interested in other men. I did have a few dates back when we first split up 9 months ago. H had an OW then and I had tried to get him back and he wouldn't budge. So I needed a distraction. When he found out I was with someone he was devastated, kicked OW to the curb and said he wanted to try taking things really slow. So here we are.
One of my favorite places to read is eyesopened's KLA stuff. Great ideas and encouragement.
I'll go check out your thread to see what you've been up to. The more info I can get the better, right!
We do spend more quality time together than we did when we we lived together. I know I just want things to move ahead a little faster and I have to be patient. Like you said, keep working in baby steps. I sometimes want them to be big, giant steps!
