I don't know if I would accept the moniker "typical" (I'm unique dammit, just like everyone else! ha) but, if you are asking if my physical longing aka "lust" has increased, then the answer is no.
On the other hand, do I long to make connection with my husband in every possible way? Yes.
I push myself to be more aware of the occasional *pings* of horniness. Those twinges were always there, just buried under the mountain of relational poop we had managed to accummulate.
What does that look like to NOP? Well he wrote, " however, it seems to me that in a good relationship, the lines between HD and LD become so blurred as to be effectively indistinguishable. My experience is certainly moving in that direction."
It's part of the reason I asked "what does desire look like". I need to revisit that thread before it scrolls off. I asked because the phrase that keeps coming up is "I want them to want me" and I'm still not sure how that would display itself to all those longing for it. kwim?
At one point I wrote, "Maybe I'm simplifying too much, but as the LD in our relationship, I don't wait for my somewhat nebulous sexual senses to burst into flame before I grab NOP's butt, cop a feel or grab him and lay one on him. I don't know, but even among members in the arousal-then-desire club, it's not impossible or psychologically damaging to get "physical" during the day with your spouse -IF- both partner's have reached a place where they *want* to express care for each other."
but, if you are asking if my physical longing aka "lust" has increased, then the answer is no.