Quote: when confronted with the type of sexual/mental abuse that he doled out to me I didn't know how to fight back....and lets face it, I was terrified and ashamed
This is so interesting. I know I felt some of this when it turned out that my bf was an alcoholic. I also didn't know how to fight it, and I was embarrassed and ashamed. Isn't it odd how when someone treats us badly or does outrageous things that we somehow think we've done something to bring it upon ourselves? I guess part of it is that we're embarrassed to have been shown to have such poor judgment! There were so many times early in this R that I should have walked. Things have actually improved a lot. This morning he said, "I don't know how you put up with me." I said, "It's building my character."
Glad you and Happy are friends and that you're here on the board together!
