Thanks so much for the questions - okay, we're moving here! H approach to sex is scheduling it. He'll say are we going to have together time when.... and then at the appointed time he'll strip down, I'll begin a BJ to get the ball rolling he'll pull me up, slap on a condom and 5 minutes later we're getting dressed. It's depressing to write. If he tries to prolong it he'll talk about daily stuff and actually stop ML (I understand why but it really kills the mood!) He's very nice in that he will tell me how sexy I am and how I get him excited visually, etc - but unless I'm "ready" when we start - to be honest I am more than happy just getting it over with - there's just no passion there. I don't know, maybe it's my fault. I bought a Cosmo this week to try and get ideas on how to spice it up - Now THAT's something for ya ;-) In the meantime I am horny for anything that moves except my husband. I know how bad that sounds, and I don't plan on cheating on him, but right now my imagination and MB is the best sex I've had lately.
And Noooooo, H does not MB, he gets offended when I talk about it because I get the impression he thinks it's dirty. We have done porn but to be honest I suspect it's just for my benefit. We haven't done that for, well, 5 yrs since we've had kids. Sweet sex was good when we dated, etc., but now it's just not doing it for me. But I really don't want to deflate his ego. Anytime I try and talk with him, ie. suggest counseling or just wants/desires he just says he's perfectly happy.
As for if he thinks of me as a M and instead of a W, I think his views of sex is just different than mine. Like I said, he practiced the same routine when we dated also, but back then it was sweet. Make sense?
I used to try to talk with him about it but those conversations didn't go well. Maybe I need pointers on who to talk with him. He would shut me down pretty quickly.
