husband moving back - what do I do now?

[Laurie]

Any of our advice should always be weighed with the question: "Are what they suggesting going to help me with MY R?" Remember, you are unique personalities and have your own unique interactions. So, remember:
#1 - WHAT YOU CHOOSE TO DO OR SAY (OR DON'T DO OR SAY) YOU WANT IT TO MOVE YOU TOWARD YOUR GOALS!!!

#2 - STOP DOING ANYTHING ASAP THAT IS NOT WORKING WITH YOUR H. (No matter how good you think the advice is, OK? If it's not working for you, then there is no value in doing it, right?)

#3 - KEEP DOING WHAT IS WORKING.
As Roktop has implied, you must be doing some very "right" things that your H is moving back - good for you - keep doing it!!!

I also agree to keep the OW out of your thoughts and discussions with him as much as possible. (Why "invite" her into your valuable time you have with your H by bringing her up? Make that positive couple time with just the two of you!)

And as Alaska suggests, use your time with him to be fun, attractive, sexy, etc,. Then, balance that with PMA and having your healthy balance of your own life. That also looks very attractive, plus you'll feel better that you're not needy!

People like to refer to Michele and her coaches as the experts. But I am here to remind you (and Michele would too) that you are the ultimate expert re: your own R. You are able to think a few steps ahead of any behavior you may try and know better than anyone if that behavior will help or hurt your R. So my advice? Continue to reflect on what you are doing and watch to see if it is taking your R where you want it to go, OK?

You have much support here! And Alaska, Rokop, and Pattie, thanks for what you offer here,