I really need some advice. To give you a quick background brief, my H and I split up last May 04. He instigated the split saying he was unhappy/ felt trapped etc/ We started to get back together but it was only part time. I.e my H would sleep 3/4 nights a week, come round every day etc etc. But would not commit back 100%. Then in Jan this year when I thought things were going ok I found out about OW. I found his phone bill and he was calling /texting her up to 30 times a day. We discussed it and he told me he had made a friend but thats all it was, nothing physical had happened she was just someone who he liked and could talk to easily. I told him that as we were part time back together that I would not accept this, and that if we were to work then he had to finish it with her. So he did, or I thought!!! Things then went down hill over next few weeks, my H grew more distance, stopped wanting to sleep over etc. We had a weekend in amsterdam booked which we very nearly decided not to go on. My H suddenly discovered an obsession with my past and kept wanting to ask me questions about my previous relationships before I met him. But really personal in depth questions I still do not understand why? We went to Amsterdam and had a fantastic weekend. We talked and talked and decided that we both still wanted to make a go of things. He asked me to give him a week or so after coming back to think things over then he would move back. All fine until I find out yesterday that he is still in contact with the OW. ok, he has not been contacting her but she has been ringing him on a regular basis. I asked him about it and he admitted it, he said he enjoyed talking to her as he got on well with her and he felt she gave him an unbiased opinion on our situation. After talking we agreed that H will move back home at the weekend to try again on our marriage, but we have given ourselves 2 months to seehow things go. My H has this internal fear that if he comes back he has to comit for life, but with us saying 2 months he feels happier with this as I suppose he knows he has a get out clause if things do not work.
So I have 2 questions: 1 - what do I do when he moves back at the weekend? how should I be? I just want things to work?
2 - what about the OW? yes I want to tell him to stop contact with her but I know its not the right things to do. I do think she is puting doubts in my H's mind, but then again if he wanted her would he not have left by now..
I am really confused, do not want to mess this up.
