I find it interesting that Barny is lurking out there reading posts, but not responding.
Barney...are you wondering what to do next? Pondering the actual impact of your actions? Worrying about the fact that she actually caught on to what you were doing? Or figuring out how exactly you are going to begin your next conversation with your wife?
Your marriage can still be salvaged and be better than it ever was, but I do believe the next step is yours to make.