Quote: *An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect.*
This is a good definition. This is why I believe my H's use of porn rather than having sex with me was the equivalent of an affair. When you say "lack of respect" I assume you also mean lack of self-respect. I say this because the reason I won't have an affair is the same reason I don't cheat in other ways. If you don't cheat you might lose the game or fail the test but if you do cheat you'll never really win or get an A. If you never really win or get an A, you will feel terrible about yourself, much worse than if you try and fail.
Sorry for the hi-jack .
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
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