Nice, I agree with you that promising to never again lose your temper is an unattainable goal. Some people are hotheads, some are not. A lot of it has to do with your FOO, some of it your temperament and some of it is just plain old HABIT. So kick this habit, pronto. But I don't know if I'd ever agree to never do it again. You ARE a human, right?!?! Therefore, prone to less-than-perfectionism..?
Anyway, I'm wondering if the reason that Barney has not appreciated your changes in this regard (other than the fact that he is too p*ssed to notice anything positive in his life--and that's not a slam on you, Barn) is because you are not filling it up with goodness? When you took away the anger, what did you put in its place? False cheerfulness? Rush rush rush? Barely-hanging-on-and-gritting-your-teeth? What?
Sometimes we plan on eliminating a bad behavior while never really thinking about what we'll put in its place.
