Hey J,

All your thoughts mirror mine lately. I even asked my H, do you just want me to tell you to go, do you want me to make the decision for you????? He said no, but I get the feeling he wants me to make the decision so he doesn't have to.

I feel like my GAL gave H too much freedom to continue and still be comfortable at home (no one knowing, no financial problems and whatever the heck he gets from me emotionally).

You know I took the plunge and it is scary. So don't do it unless you are ready. I feel like I will be okay but being a single mom was never part of my plan or being alone. But I also had other things to consider which you know by reading my thread. I know if my H leaves it will be really hard in a lot of ways. My H has still not made a decision. I am trying to figure out how to handle it.

Hang in there, you have so many positives (just the fact that he has wanted to work on the M is wonderful). I know he keeps going back and forth. Maybe he just needs more time and DBing from you.

Sherry