You're in the Infidelity/Extramarital Affairs/Jealousy forum right now. When you enter the forum, before you click into someone else's thread, at the top next to "I/EA/J" there's an option to "Post". Click on it and you will create your own thread. You can tell your situation, and other members will know where to look for you to lend you advice and support.
At first, I would describe myself as feeling stupid for giving my H a second chance. I used to think, "Once a cheater, always a cheater." But when I really had to think about things, I realized I wasn't being stupid at all. I've built an entire life with this man. We have a home of our own, 3 wonderful boys, and so much more. I'm not willing to just throw it all away on account of one mistake. Yes, it was a BIG one, and the trust I had in him is gone because of it. But I love him, and I have forgiven him. I will never forget what happened - none of us in this kind of situation can. But I have committed myself into making my M work, and if it doesn't, then so be it.
I understand what you mean. The "having his cake and eating it, too." I'm not okay with any kind of communication going on between my H and the OW. According to H, it has stopped, but as I posted earlier, I have new info that suggests otherwise. H is away on business, so I'm going to wait until he gets back to deal with it. There are other members here that are still living with their spouses who are still having contact with the OP (other person). I'm sure they'll give you more insight and how they are handling their situation.
I felt very alone, too, until I came here and soon realized I wasn't as alone as I thought. Lean on the people here, myself included. We're all here for each other's support.
Valerie
"I can't change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination." ~ author unknown
