Quote: ...The day he decided to stay (which time), the numerous times he's told me he's not talking to her and still does? I just don't get how he can say he WON'T call her.....How many more times do I believe him and get burned?...
Wow! I have that feeling as if I'm looking in a mirror right now! My H has had his moments of wanting to stay then wanting to go, too. He has told me many times that he isn't talking to OW anymore, but now I have information that shows this could possibly be false. I, too, have been burned by believing his many lies. What else were we supposed to do? We're supposed to trust and believe what our Hs tell us.
I wish I had all the answers. I'm learning as I go here, too. I haven't read DB, but I have read Divorce Remedy (DR). You may want to get it, too. Michele said that in DB, she gave some couples the false impression that things could be fixed overnight. Of course that's not true. This takes time. It took a long time for your M to get to that unfortunate point, so it will understandably take a long time to heal.
You need to work on yourself right now. You need to get a life (GAL) outside your M. The more you keep yourself busy with other things and the more you do for you, the less you will think about problems. It's difficult, but it's necessary so you can get through this easier. Not easily, just easier.
It's clearly your choice on calling the OW. Just be careful if you do. One member here said she called the OW in her case, and it turned into a legal matter. It could be best to just let it go, but again, it's solely up to you.
Your thread: Where did you go to tell your situation when you first came to this site? What forum?
Valerie
"I can't change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination." ~ author unknown
