OK, so I'm having the same dilemma with the phone issue. The OW is still texting him but I haven't had the guts to actually read the messages. I just know when he has a new message. He used to leave the phone in the car ALL the time and now at least brings it in and leaves it on the dresser. Of course, I look at it periodically to see if there are any new messages. Why? Who knows. What it proves, I don't know. I already know she's texting him so what's the point? Ugh. Well, yesterday morning I checked it as usual before I got in the shower and there were no new messages. After I got out I heard a noise and went to look and then it said one new message. I became enraged and told him to tell the OW to be careful about what time of day she sends her text messages since at 6:30am I am the only one up! Well, since then, he brings the phone in still, but now turns it completely OFF. Hm...Trying to shield me from the hurt he knows I feel when I know there's a message or just not wanting me to know exactly when and how many messages he's getting? I am so confused. I just want this to all go away. I'm exhausted from dealing with it since November. Seems like years. So anyway, I feel your pain about the phone. I was checking online to see how long he was talking to her, at what times of day...until he got a new phone and new number so now I can't. I was getting obsessed with it, so maybe that was best. H did this before he decided to give our marriage another try, but I would like him to give it up just to give me some reassurances that he's not trying to hide anything. He doesn't get that. Oh well, hang in there and I'll do the same. But that's what I'm afraid of.....more of the same.......and no resolutions.
