What happens now?

[ValerieA]

Thanks, D and NY! I have a sense of relief now that I know H wants to stay together, but not a huge sense. I keep repeating in my mind, "No expectations, no expectations, no expectations."

Yes, I would have to say H is multi-lingual! Physical touch, Words of Affirmation, and possibly Acts of Service. When he is home, he will help out around the house and run errands sometimes so I don't have to always run around with the baby. My love languages are Physical touch and Quality time. I will work on Words and Acts for him, and hopefully he will return Quality time in time.

I've always been great at listening rather than great at giving advice. I would have to say that what worked for me to get me to this point is that I started to act as if everything was ok. I was devastated for the past month, but after reading DR and After the Affair , they somehow gave me a feeling of strength and made me realize that no matter what, everything would be ok. My boys would be ok. Most importantly, I would be ok. If H decided he wanted out, then I would let him go rather than beg, plead, cry, etc. because we both deserve to be happy, and if it took us going our separate ways to be happy, then so be it.

My H and I have a long road ahead of us, and hopefully we will remain side by side. I have to thank many of you out there for your guidance and support. You are all truly wonderful people! Especially you, NY. You helped to get me going in the right direction and were there every step of the way. You are a very strong, gifted individual, and I wish you all the best life has to offer. D, keep your head high and don't give up. Remember, no matter what, you will be ok. Life goes on for all of us with or without our spouses. Good luck! There is always hope.

I know that I'm nowhere near being out of the woods yet, but things are looking much clearer and brighter.

Thanks for listening, everyone!