What happens now?

[ValerieA]

Thanks, dodger. I was at Barnes&Noble yesterday and looked for Surviving... , but they didn't have it. I definitely want to get it though. I'm not concerned about the money. If this is what it takes to have a better understanding of what's going on in my M, I believe it's well worth it.

I actually read After the Affair first. Since I've been losing sleep since the start of all this, I spent quite an amount of time reading last night until about 3am this morning. Sooo much of it hits home, you know? I would love for my H to read it when he gets back so he can have a better understanding of what we are both going through, but I don't know if he would be willing to. Once when we were having a tough time (about a year and a half ago), I suggested we try to get some counselling. H said, "Why am I going to pay someone to tell me what I already know I need to do?"

But he did say he wants to try to make things better. So maybe.....?

I'm starting Divorce Remedy next.

By the way, I read your thread, dodger. I am so sorry about your situation. It sounds like your coping a little better now, I hope. I wish the best for you, your D, and your W if she is ever back in the real picture.