A few of hours before my H was supposed to leave for Seattle, he told me he was going to deliver some equipment to a co-worker out-of-town. After not hearing from him for a couple of hours, I tried calling him but got no answer. I tried again 15 minutes later. Still no answer. He finally called me back 10 minutes later and said he left his cell phone in the car. This is pretty unusual for him seeing that his cell is practically another part of his body.
He came back home about 40 minutes later, got his things together for his trip, and then gave me a hug goodbye. He could sense that something was bothering me and asked what was wrong. This is where I goofed. I said that I couldn't help feeling that he went to see OW before he had to leave. He of course denied having done anything of the sort and said, "So this is the kind of goodbye I get?"
I felt so terribly bad. I called him after he had already left to tell him how sorry I was. He said that I don't need to be sorry for anything since he was the one who did this to us. I said yes that he was to blame for what he did, but we are both at fault for what happened to get us to that point. He kept saying, "No, no. You didn't do anything wrong. It was all me." I think he was just trying to get me to feel better.
He called me a few hours later to tell me, "I'm just letting you know that I'm paying for everything I've done to you right now. I'm broken down on the side of the freeway. My car's completely dead, and my cell phone's about to die." I tried asking if he had help coming, but he cut me off saying, " My phone's gonna die so if you try calling, and I don't answer, that's why. Let me go so I can deal with this. Bye." His tone during all of this was very angry.
Any advice on how to deal with this kind of mood swing from H?
Valerie
"I can't change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination." ~ author unknown
