What happens now?

[ValerieA]

Thank you, Sherry and NYsurvivor, for your responses and kind words. It really helps to know that many others understand my situation and what I'm going through.

I have taken this past week to really evaluate myself and made an effort to see what I need to improve not just for the relationship but also for myself. My H did mention that for a long time he felt that I didn't love him enough. I, of course, thought he was out of his mind. I have always loved him no matter what. But after having the time to go over this and what may have led us to this point, I have some idea of what I may have done wrong. I don't think I thanked him enough for everything he has done for us. He works very hard so that I can be a stay-at-home mom because that is what I wanted. I don't think that's what he wanted, but he was never totally against it. I have always appreciated him, but I don't believe I expressed it nearly enough.

The timing of our 3rd and final child didn't come at the best time for him either. We had talked about having a 3rd child, tried for about 2 months, but then he had some serious health issues, and we decided to put off trying until we were both in much better physical health. But what do you know? I found out I was expecting after we made that decision. He was not thrilled to say the least.

I have been trying my best to act like everything's going to be okay in front of him. I try to act happy and not bothered by anything. He thinks that I have had a "pep talk" with someone because he doesn't understand why I'm acting this way after all that has happened. I haven't talked to anyone about this. I told him that I'm just trying to move on.

Thanks for the book recommendation. I will get it.

I mentioned in my original post at that time, he was going to get displays from a friend for work. When he came back home, he said that he had lied. He really went to the mall to get me something personal. Did I mention that he met her at the mall because she works there?