H seemed withdrawn last night and again this morning...I am sure its just his work, but it sure does stink when hes like that. I will just wait til he comes out of this "cave"!

I was thinking last night how far H and I have come in past year and thought I would write down some 180's that both of us have done.

MY 180's:
1. I no longer nag H about things, I ask once and then just let it go.
2. I no longer get anxious when H leaves around 1pm (thats when he used to go call OW) or when he goes into the bathroom with his cell (he used to text her in there)
3. I dont expect or even ask H to go places with me all the time...I go by myself.
4. I am not afraid to try new things or meet new people.
5. I tell H "thank you" when he does ANYTHING for me and tell him how much it means to me.
6. I no longer think H bad moods or "cave time" is because of something I did and I just give him that time until he's ready to come out.
7. If we have an arguement, I dont think I need to be right..and I talk calmly instead of accusing.
8. I "Listen" to H when he talks..or am practicing to listen instead of interrupting and helping.
9. I dont obssess about OW and relationship they had and I have forgiven him for the EA.
10. I have been getting more involved in sports because it is a big part of H life and instead of fighting him every step of the way about it, why not join him?
11. I am gonna start golfing and playing cards too, because they are of interest to my H and its stuff we can do together!

H 180's:
1. I only have to ask him once to do something and it gets done...I am in habit now of making "lists" of stuff I would like him to do and it works so much nicer...he does it when he can!
2. H is starting to "thank" me for things that I do and he NEVER used to do that.
3. His being more considerate of my feelings.
4. H is going out on dates with me AT LEAST once a week.
5. H helps me with the kids when I am getting stressed or just need some extra help. (and they arent even our kids!)
6. H is bringing up conversations and talking to me about his job and stuff.
7. H is making future plans with me whether it be a trip or something to do with the house.
8. If I ask him to spend a little time with me, he does, if even for a little bit when he is busy....makes a point to try.


I guess you could say that we have both changed quite a bit in the past year. And if all that has happened in just once year, just think of where we could be in a year from now!!