Quote: I was thinking today that maybe when H said "I dont want to hug and kiss you just because....I still dont have those feelings" ..is because he still has some strong feelings for OW. I know that they hugged and kissed and maybe he feels that its not fair to me for him to hug and kiss me yet, because its hard for him to not think of what he was doing with her. How can I understand that?
Girl, I hate to say it, but you are WAY over-analyzing here. Cut it out. You're only making yourself nuts.
Instead of focusing on why he is or isn't doing something, which is a need you have, why don't you consider ways you can get these needs met yourself in some other way? If it's a self-care need, perhaps a need to relax and be touched, go get a massage or go to a spa and soak in the jaccuzi. He'll come around; be patient and take care of your own needs. You'll glow from the inside and he'll be drawn to you like a moth to a flame!
