Well, listen to this...H just told me he still doesnt have feelings for me....well, so all the effort I have been putting forth is all for nothing. It always comes back to the "INILWY" and I dont have those feelings for you. He says that is why he doesnt hug or kiss me. I said that those are the most intimate things that help bring closer and he said , yea and Im not going to force myself to do something that I dont want to do. I told him that I hated him at one time and forced myslef to do loving things toward him because I wanted this marriage to work. I asked him if maybe he would consider trying the hugs and kisses, just for one month and then see what happens. He said no, because he doesnt want to.
I said it seemed to me he was happy and enjoying being with me, and he said because you asked me to try, so I have been trying, but I still dont have those feelings.
What do I do? Give up?? I dont know if I can do this anymore...work so hard for so long just to hear..sorry, dont feel anything!
Sage, if your out there, I need your advice...did your H go thru this too?? HELP !
