Communication skills need some improvement...

[sage]

Maybe you're giving too much? Or maybe he feels the expectations that you have regarding sending an e-card and it feels like pressure?

I remember so well the period of time where I felt like what you posted...things go great and then you start to feel anxious...for me that often led to my reaching out for reassurances from him (either overtly or tacitly -- like sending an e-card or a flirty email) and he wouldn't respond the way I wanted or hoped and I would get bummed and pull back and ...

Two things that worked well for me in breaking that cycle
1. listing 3 positives a day -- this helped me see that he WAS reassuring me -- just not in MY love language

2. Focusing on giving HIM his LL (which happens to primarily be quality time for my h). IOW, when I focused on whether or not I was meeting his needs, he would often respond positively to my needs (but be careful not to pursue!).

OK, one more...verbal affirmation/appreciation for something he had done that I really appreciated -- like, "I really enjoyed that lunch this weekend" or "I love it when you call me during the day", etc.

I know it's really hard but try to let go of the expectations for a while...it often gets telegraphed to our spouses as them not "doing or being" enough.

Also, how about a treat for yourself? Bubble bath? New lipstick? Trashy magazine? Some exercise? Sometimes reassuring YOURSELF turns out to be great medicine.

Sage