Last night, we were watching a movie together and H phone rang....of course he answered it, because he ALWAYS does! Ok..so it ended up being like a 20 min phone call ( I know it was a friend of his)...so I sat with movie on pause for 20 min, getting more and more angry. He talks to his friends DAILY if not more than that..so I knew it couldnt have been anything too important. Why could he have not at least say, "hey, we are in the middle of a movie, can I call you back in a bit?" At least that would show me that I was a little more important than his friend.
So, when he came back, I thought..ok, I am angry, I need to say something, but in a calm voice. First of all, I didnt use the right words and realized that afterwards. Here is what I did say, "You know maybe next time when you get a phone call and you know its not real important, maybe you could just let it go and then call them back after the movie or at least tell them we are in the middle of a movie and you will call them back"...well, he didnt take it so well. He seemed angry, withdrawn...and would hardly touch me or let me hold his arm. I could just feel the tension in him, so I asked him, "Are you angry? Whats wrong" and he said "Nothing" so I just let it go..I figured the more I talked about it the worse it would get.
He did get another phone call about 10 min later and he did answer it, but was only on for like 1 minute. I did notice that he did check to see who it was at first when they called and hesitated to answer it, so maybe that was his way of trying to show me he WAS okay with what I said.
Well, the night ended ok then, we went to bed together..I tried to make conversation to "test the waters", but it seemed so forced, I just quit and kissed him on cheek and said good nite..and I did thank him for watching movie with me.
If I am spending time with my H and I know its not an emergency on the phone, I do not answer.
