Hey Mel--I do think it might have been a little easier that H's affair only lasted 6 months and also no sex was involved. But you know how I got that feeling back..by doing things that I knew would make my H feel good and happy and eventually I started feeling it again and then I was doing those things because I wanted to and I knew I loved him.
He still hasn't done the one thing that would really matter. And sorry to say...he probably won't do the thing that matters the most, or at least what you think would matter the most. My H has not done any of the things that would let me know that I can feel safe and not be afraid he isnt going to do this to me again. But his actions are showing me...just like some of your H actions are showing you...especially by asking you if you can imagine having a life together again.
I agree with Sage..if your not comfortable with the sex, start small..simple hugs, hand holding, small kisses....you will be amazed that by showing your H loving actions, you will start to feel that love come thru again.
Yes, you will have to make up your mind to ML again..sometimes I still just do it BECAUSE I know it makes my H feel loved and makes him happy and in the end..I end up feeling loved and happy too!!
