Things H did to show me he loves me: 1. Mailed package for me 2. Looked at cameras for me and also wrote some others down that might be good 3. Went out for supper with me, carried on good conversation while eating 4. Did puzzle with me 5. Helped with kids 6. Thanked me for making him breakfast
Things I did for H to show him I love him: 1. Paid for supper 2. Sent him e card telling him he is wonderful H and that I appreciate all his help this week 3. Kept house clean
I think after a week or so, I am going to come back and look at these and see what needs I am meeting for my H and what needs he is meeting for me. Then maybe try something different with him and see what type of reaction I get. I have a book called "5 Steps to Romantic Love" its from the MB website. It deals with the "His Needs, Her Needs and Love Busters" books...and a cassette tape came with it and I finally listened to it yesterday. I know my H doenst like to read, so maybe he will listen to this tape to get a better understanding of what I need or why our needs are different. Then hopefully he will sit down and do the test so that I can see if I am feeding his needs appropriately. And, he can see what he needs to do for me.
Ok, so I know H is not a very affectionate person and never really was...but I have read so many books where people were like this, but in doing the same thing over and over, it becomes a habit and isnt as comfortable to do.
