Had a great time yesterday, just window shopping. It was nice not to have the kids with me. This morning H let me sleep in! Unbelivable. I even heard him shushing the kids. AND today, he decided it was time to put up the baseboards for the kitchen that we remodeled last June...instead of working on his car.
While I was out, I did a lot of thinking and I think I finally came to the realization that a lot of my lack of SD for H wasn't actually lack of SD, it's a control issue. As much as H needs to take control of some things in our R I need to let go.
So H isn't always the brightest crayon in the box when it comes to the female gender and has a tendency to put his foot in his mouth. Maybe with gentle guidance from each of us we can get to a place where we meet in the middle. I mean that is really what happens in a successful R. It's not who "gives in". It's a process of letting go of your paradyms of a perfect marriage and finding a space where you are comfortable.
