ChaCha said: ----------------- I don't know if it is really tied to the weight loss but I certainly agree that I did like myself better then. I just didn't seem to worry so much about everything. I find now that it is very difficult for me to put aside most of the day to day stuff and just allow myself to relax. Of course, if I don't relax then I don't seem to have any SD. I mean I just don't get in the mood when I am thinking about what I'm cooking for dinner. So why don't I just set those thing aside? What happened to me to make me into this nervous, bitter worrier? I used to be a fun person, I used to laugh...a lot. Nothing seems funny anymore. I just want to feel comfortable with H. I want to reach to point in our R where we can enjoy "comfortable silence" and not read it as one of us in angry at the other. I want to fall into his arms at night and feel safe again. I want to feel that I can't get enough of him.
Sorry....feeling a bit weepy today. -----------------
I read about a study somewhere, that basically said slightly overweight people are happier than slimmer people. Evidently, people that are more at peace with their surroundings tend to enjoy food more. Slimmer people tend to be more stressed and dealing with higher stress in their lives - according to the study.
My personal approach is to stay well muscled, then I eat what I want within reason. Hint, sausage and french fries every meal is a no no :-)
What you can do is take some of what your husband said, to heart. It won't hurt to have one 'blow out' meal a week. Not a blow-out day, just the one meal. That way you can keep the weight off and still enjoy some hearty food.
You might consider approaching you husband and saying something like "I hear what you said about the BBQ and picnic. Can we do that this weekend? Sounds good to me"
It will let him know you are listening. It may incline his 'ear' more toward you.
All the best, -NOPkins-
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